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Teacher Lesson Return to "Helping Me With Control"
Helping Me With Control
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Communicating My Emotions


1. The Anger Iceberg: 10 minutes

Draw a picture of an iceberg on a board or on flip chart paper and label the top of the iceberg, “Anger”.

Ask group members: “Think of a time you were angry. What other emotions accompanied your anger?”

Write responses on the bottom half of the iceberg.

Explain to group members that while “anger” might be the emotion being displayed it is often a “secondary emotion,” meaning there are a number of other primary emotions that actually lie beneath its surface.

Ask volunteers for other primary emotions that might be beneath the surface of anger and add them to the drawing.

2. Read the Story: 15 minutes

As a group, read aloud "Helping Me With Control" by Lance Hill (p. 4), taking turns. Let teens pass if they don’t want to read.

3. Inside vs. Outside: 20 minutes

Ask group members to draw a figure or outline of a body.

Ask group members to write, on the outside of the body template, how Lance is displaying his emotions on the outside. Ask group members to write how Lance is really feeling internally on the inside of the template.

Discuss your findings together. Ask group members to point to positive ways that Lance communicated and handled his difficult emotions. [He talked to Ms. Wells about losing his parents. He cried and felt calmer afterwards. He came to understand his parents messed up and he didn’t, and that helped him focus on his future. He apologized to his previous foster mom and foster sisters. He wrote down his feelings.]

Close: Ask the group if they have any new emotions to add to the bottom of their iceberg.
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