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Teacher Lesson Return to "Peaceful Warrior"
Peaceful Warrior
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Figuring Out How To Quit


Freewrite and Discussion: 10 minutes
Make sure everyone has paper and a pen or pencil. Then ask the group to think about a bad habit or behavior that they would like to stop, have been able to cut down on, or have already stopped. It could be anything from smoking to overeating to cutting to fighting—anything they’ve decided they’d be better off not doing. Ask them to write down the bad habit and also write about why they think they do (or did) this self-destructive or destructive thing. Tell the group that they will not have to share their answers if they don’t want to.

Give the group a few minutes to think and write, and then go around the circle or ask for volunteers to share. (You may want to share your own example to kick things off.)

Ask the group if, when they thought about it, they were able to explain why they did or do the bad habit. Did they understand that at the time? Does pinpointing a reason or trigger help them get control over a behavior or habit? (There is no right answer here; allow for discussion.)

Read the Story: 10 minutes
Have them read “Peaceful Warrior” by Anonymous out loud, taking turns. Let them pass if they want.

Discussion: 15 minutes
Ask teens to call out reasons why the author fought. Point out that reasons don’t have to be solutions or even make sense; they can be emotional reactions [e.g., her mom’s treatment seemed unfair and she was angry; she had no control in foster care and was crowded in with too many girls; “to get justice”]. Ask if fighting made any of that better [No].

Then ask, what did make the situation better? Brainstorm a list on the board or chart paper [yoga and exercise; analyzing before reacting; using a calm voice; going to therapy and expressing herself there and elsewhere; getting her own room].

Ask the group if anyone has tried any of these solutions for a behavior they wanted to change. Was it effective? What other strategies can help them change a bad habit? List additional suggestions on the board.

Closing: 5 minutes
Ask each teen to pick at least one strategy from the board that they would like to try for a change they want to make in their lives. They can write the strategy down, or go around in a circle and share out.
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(FCYU-2017-07-08)

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